Ask, and you shall receive. I have to learn this the hard way too. I used to think just like you. I was brought up in a society that teaches to sacrifice ourselves first but never ever be a burden to someone else. I had to take a long winding road to learn that we all need others to survive in this planet.
Anytime, Todd. Ask. My e-mail is firstname.lastname@example.org if you ever need any assistance. Feel free to write me and thank you for being courageous and inspiring! :)